By Margaret Wachholz
A farmer is never content until he reaps at harvest, a physician examines the effects of a medication prescribed, a soldier observes whether his bullet hit the target, a mother ensures her baby is healthy & a father evaluates if his child has grown to be a fine young man / woman.
A Home serves as a great vehicle for building equity. Though you do not need to own your home to have a good home. Establishing roots for your family & for your memory as you grow older is important.
Home is where we record all things wonderful throughout our lives. It’s where you feel safest, where you fight & cry, where you put your head down at night & where you can build a lifetime of memories.
I look at so many old pictures belonging to our elder population in Woodbury & they tell stories of the times spent at Home. I look at the table, the yard, imagine the aromas – where they made their home special with their own personal touches. The Home was where they stood standing next to someone they loved and, for all we know, were trying their best not to fall apart, but instead to keep the family together. It is where they raised their children; where they persevered through pain, discouragement & suffering while embracing the many joys & celebrations as well – being together as an imperfect family, but a family with a sense of Home.
It is our charge to create a peaceful home, one where we can grow despite challenges. Life is not always tied up in a pretty bow like a Christmas car commercial, but it is a gift. We are with one another for the long haul; so making our home reflect love, peace, and respect is something we are all in need of.
Perhaps as we better define home and family, we could admit that not everything in our current era has seen a pattern of continual improvement, and ask what we can do in our own perimeter of influence to improve a sense of Home? Being a mom or a dad is tough stuff. Not for the weak, weary, or ambivalent.
Just as in the military– a nation, a family, a mother & father must have: Loyalty [bearing true faith & allegiance to one’s family], Duty [fulfill your obligations], Respect [not to abandon your children], Selfless Service [putting the welfare of your family before your own], Honor, Integrity [to do what is right], & Personal Courage [to face a challenge].
Each generation has its struggles, and this struggle is ours – to make Home a better place for the next generation, as it was for the past generations that had the wisdom & grit to create a sense of Home.
This is one thing we could surely learn from our elders as they struggle through the loneliness of isolation during these hopefully waning moments of COVID & quarantines.
Margaret Wachholz is the campus marketing director at Woodbury Senior Living.